Welcome
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Dating and hooking up with men can be fun, affirming and potentially romantic. Many trans women are in long-term fulfilling relationships with men. We all deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. However, in our society there can be many challenges for trans women who date men.
It can be hard to find good quality information that supports trans women in navigating their relationships with men. This website contains stories, resources and tips that can help.
We recommend that you refer men who date or hook up with trans women to our “For men who date trans women” resource, so they can learn how to be more respectful to you or other trans women.
The content comes from conversations with both trans women and men who are attracted to or in relationships with trans women. You can learn more about the project here.
“I had given up on finding a romantic relationship but then I met my current partner. So many of the men I’d dated had been attracted to me just because I was trans and those relationships were always quite hidden. It meant so much to me to love and to be loved. To be seen and celebrated as a whole person and to be integrated into my partner’s life.” Petra
In talking about our relationships and experiences it’s important to recognise that no two people are the same. Our age, ability, culture, faith, class, family, gender, sexuality and other aspects of our identity and lives make us unique. Whilst there may be overlapping experiences within communities of people, we all have our own individual stories and lived experience.